Comparison's Crazy Cycle

3-7-2012 by Boyd Bailey

Comparison’s Crazy Cycle


“When Peter saw him, he asked, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” John 21:21-22

No one wins when comparison is the criteria for being valued. If people are the plumb line for a sense of success—then there are always those who are smarter, prettier and richer. An unrealistic appraisal of others feeds a feeling of failure. On the other hand, pride puffs up with a subtle notion of superiority when it looks to others as a standard for living. Jesus smiles and says, “What is that to you?” Comparison is not a win for anyone.

Yes, we can be inspired and instructed by a life that seeks to emulate the Lord, but we are not to idolize any individual. Of course we are wise to learn from the mistakes of others, but not with a secret delight that believes we look better, when the unfortunate look bad. Our discontent is compounded under the demanding nature of comparison. We cannot enjoy what we have for the allure of what we don’t have. Comparison kills contentment.

“And I saw that all toil and all achievement spring from one person’s envy of another. This too is meaningless, a chasing after the wind.” Ecclesiastes 4:4

However, a heart that is focused on following hard after Christ has no room for looking to others for affirmation of worth. Our heavenly Father does not have favorites among His children—He loves them all the same. What God expects is for us to be faithful with the gifts and opportunities He has given us. Jesus whispers, “You have all you need in Me.” The Lord is enough for a surrendered life. His grace is an extension of His blessings.

Therefore, look to Christ alone for your sense of worth. He loves you for who you are: His precious child created in His image. He loves your looks, your smile, and He is attracted to your tender heart. He is proud of your ability to relate well to people and your desire to grow in grace. He affirms your vocation that brings Him glory by your excellent work. So, ask what Jesus thinks of you, and then rest in His caring confirmation.

“We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.” 2 Corinthians 10:12

Where do I need to stop comparing and start receiving Christ’s caring commendations?

Related Readings: Proverbs 8:11; Ecclesiastes 4:5-6; Romans 12:15; James 3:14-16